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1, female and male university students, a very good relationship, the man suddenly picked someone else to marry (probably the other good work). Later, married women also, the male initiation remorse, with the female development. So With a painful affair. knew that the results of women, with her husband to off-site development, family life is OK now. Women can not get rid of this guy and emotional. call a few days ago, was man refused. also know that this is best results, but there is not be reconciled. how to make up their own balance, get rid of the pain?
people have a change of heart, and become very thorough, you should round Zhexiang also Buyiburao dream. quibble continue, you are Some marriages more likely than not that he has less of urine you. to their own point of dignity, Valentine's only reason for abandoning us when we die is not enough to love us, not only so, on what basis we have the heart to live up to our people sustenance it. uncontrollable impulse, you are not a charismatic person.
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2, a male 29, Master of prestigious universities, small town people, family in general, an only child. now and the two women pulled unclear. s One is love, undergraduate, a provincial people, an only child, the father of division level top leaders, professors, economic conditions and my family almost, outgoing, easy to get along with family simple. she loves me and is very good, almost thousands by Baishun. But I'm not interested in her appearance (looks normal), and I told her in different places, I was in Beijing, after the work is also in Beijing, she did not want me to Beijing, if you really like her, only in different places. after a girl in rural areas , Ph.D., introverted, very careful, three brothers and sisters, poor families, family relationships are complex. do not know how to me in the end, she was in a lot of people in my first choice, but it is with me again think of any other person, especially when I have trouble with her, chasing her, and also to meet people (who classmates). I ignore her, she came to me, I told her well, she ignored me. so hang forward. If with her, she tell me together. I am satisfied with her appearance. (others say I love look better, a big place, people do not feel the same, now in rural areas). I do not know that with which, or a Do not? with the first remote will, and do not like about her appearance. The second person complex, not good for me, I am the first two much better than in the first, but I like.
love can be in different places, different places to live in trouble, so if you love if not all love each other, do not challenge their endurance was. The first two cows fork points, but the fork and the general individual cattle conditions are good, her doctor has pretty small, spoiled by men, of course, not much attention to you, if you have masochistic tendencies, not afraid of torture and combat, it is dedicated to her Well.
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3, the day has no intention to see her boyfriend cell phone and found another woman he was hooked. seemingly not hooked up. have been explored to the spirit of the soul belongs to her, and sent the point where the flesh. before we have a good feeling, he told me the same as before , did not feel anything unusual. If you do not see that message, I do not believe he would do this to me. we have living together, I think I already meet him, why he still derail it? (now he also kept in the dark I do not know I saw his cell phone) I cry, while others thought he was flirting, while warm to me, I hurt. how men do the splits no psychological burden? man no truth it? he and I watching your blog, very much agree with some of your views. but I found him more comfortable with a man can have extramarital sex, just do not have an affair. I do not know whether he will personally.
people read my blog from each of required, and deliberately to expand an idea, regardless of context, and emphasized the meaning of right and wrong in a sentence of readers, many of you and your boyfriend is one of the two it. I never said that a man can have extra-marital sex, I just said too similar to , the basic calculation nature, but self-discipline and strong man can control nature, opportunities for self-poor Jiudai want to fool around. regardless of whether he will continue to ambiguous with other women, this kid is not honest before marriage, after marriage and never will be honest.
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4, I'm 25, graduated from college almost two years, and now work in Qingdao, a monthly income of 3000. I'm afraid to find objects. because I come from rural areas, parents are facing LOESS back into the air of an ordinary farmer , family conditions in general. I feel for my parents to college is not easy, and behind both the marriage and the house to earn my own. But her parents every day urging me to find the object, and the work I just get married, buy a house (Qingdao City Housing price of 8,000 to 10,000, a good place more expensive) are out of reach. Now a lot to me about the object I could not see. On the other hand, I am particularly picky woman, not the pick looks, I'm looking for A have the same values, not a can gradually be overcome, but need them to be patient. another blind date not to miss a chance, people can not self-sustaining too high, you are good and ordinary people have the day off, how do you know all blind date only care about superficial material girl do? maybe which one to each other and you will be able to phase the previous minded, willing to rent prime marriage simple girl.
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5, SGX a boyfriend, gathering knowledge, 1 more than a month to meet dozens of times. male family better than I am, a car has room, I newly bought a house, repayment of. followed by a chat with friends, talking to the consumer regarding love, I suddenly found that the men and generous enough to me, I did not want to take advantage of him, but the man paid the money seems to have relationships and feelings. He would send me a 200 T-shirt, meals are stalls, dozens to get, I went back to please a few times. Friends say he should not be so stingy economic situation than the interaction of others, I had a great fall. I can not directly open to it, sank half, if the date has so many times, is not no need to continue to develop? another circle of his friends did not take me into before, have not seen his family. my daughter 27, and do not want to waste unnecessary time and feelings. is to give up his efforts to change the status quo or to find a new one? < br> Perhaps you are more fashionable circles it, or thought of a meal this along, and will not particularly care about, 2 people as long as the desire to communicate, it fails to eat what? stalls and restaurants is the difference between a cheap one expensive, a bad feeling a sense of chaos and honor, right? thing or that thing, where high profits kill us, but to satisfy our vanity. If he is a simple and does not care about the person, usually used to eating stalls, and that can not remember a waste of money to take you to the hotel. I know a super-rich woman, we meet to eat a bowl of ramen is 7 yuan, so I did not feel she miser or the light to be me. Also present said, the two individuals come from the unfamiliar familiar, is a process, more than a month more than 200 contacts only to send a T-shirt, fairly normal, only that this man slow, cautious. as long as you meet him, and try not to catch on sympathy with the immediate expense of his pants, and that this cost and this rhythm is acceptable. of course, people do not generous.
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6, I am actually not bad, really not bad, but his parents divorced a great influence on me, so I did not self-confident, do not believe that men do not believe in marriage. ever see your answers to other sister, said it was not a virgin and do not admit that refuses to acknowledge. Unfortunately, when I see seems a bit late. my husband is an honest man sub, so I said, frankly a little regret. Although he said as long as I love him enough, but I always avoided virgin, the first topic. feel guilty, I do not know this feeling will not with my life. Leia, I do not care about not the re-find, or not so honest, I can feel better point? again or re looking for one, refuses to acknowledge, perhaps I will come to you going on at This lie will gradually getting my life with.
not all married? also for what for, who can believe a married woman is the virgin. Well, unless you called that her husband is blind ? he does not study this, but you had left off yourself, the day is not too loose is not enough stimulation, have to make their point just like the solemn tragedy of life? himself fit, how can we ask them to put down?
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7, I was feeling a married single mother, married for many years, love of family love children, although sex is not and it Shoushenruyu, and only one man to life, not a bad thing. may be a few months ago came across a favorite married men, he told me deliberately. line of defense one day fall, on this man's bed. then I discovered that the world is a different man, he gave me the pleasure of their own men can not give. shame ah! I want to just This time like the future does not repeat the mistakes again. but he wanted me to do long-term lover. He loves family love children, were married for many years not only the consequences of passion. If you want to create opportunities together, it is easy and very safe. I mean, security is no one but him and I know beyond. I have repeatedly stressed that this time his heart was not willing for keeps. sister, ah, how I'm not a bad woman has done such a bad thing ? I will not hurt anyone, I was selfish of the precipice, or just enjoy it?
I give up my position. because the inability to say anything.
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8, my good man he as smart popular, but also integrity, their own business. we live the last six months, suddenly discovered he had a marriage in name only, children are a year old. He keep me, want to deal with their own good, they have been separated for nearly a year and a half can not be together because that woman big temper, violence, only good fortune can not endure hardship. They agreed to a divorce, the children who should temporarily know. I think he and his family would want that son. He cares about me, I think it's worth good man entrusted type. but my family may not agree. We have education gap, the family always wanted me to find a stable job. and now this, friends, and he advised me not to, said I bet too much under the large, said after his children would be a hassle. I do not know how to do, and stepmother did not do much for the concept.
I just graduate, 26, but simple-minded and relatively simple, I do not know what this choice will have to face . I only know this man, after he met me, good to me, and I am responsible for, want to marry me. colleagues say he is a liar, let me again to him. As a client I do not think so. how his children after do? In addition, I conditions are not bad, but I will not easily give up a sense of where good people to me, and then look for another.
were still married, divorced, etc. and then you throw your love is it. Remember, costs often become infatuated Jour.
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9, I re-read my diary, even I used to think he could do anything. I actually believe his talent was better than Liu Xiang worse. I feel the feelings are not normal, it is you crazy. He liked the girls: powerful independent smart smart self selfish, to give him a lot of space and time, more than a certain eye (I was too simple, the mind than not he). and that girl is so for others said: I knew what sort of person he is. very bad character, bullying, new intern, as other people's credit for their own accounts hh bad boys so I did not get. In addition to character, he external conditions and work pretty good.
smart and not smart difference is: the smart people know what kind of person the right himself, not wise people will never confuse their true needs.
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10, and former boyfriend sleep out the feelings and would like him, he was still waiting for me back. not too much of the current feelings of her boyfriend, but he is a good man, suitable husband. now I am split mind, it is agreed that my sister said, , I still love her boyfriend is not up now, ah, how to do?
ex-boyfriend is also suitable as her husband? If the right to be back. Otherwise, to force myself to forget the past.
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11, He and I know three years ago by a friend when he was very nice to me, but I like a successful man, it was cold, so after six months he did not contact me again. Then we occasionally see on the Internet to say a few words, not lukewarm. Now I want him to start, we are not a place, I heard that he already has a girlfriend, that woman grumpy, he was good-natured, for that woman also very good. be concerned about why he will work every day and the space under my QQ? said hope I can do ordinary friends.
many men are concerned about the space of a smooth and Q, you can say that these people are me interesting? Do not care about people on a hugely magnified friends, you can not let go does not mean people can not let go. If a man and no longer appear after you break up, you may think he is very old friends of your mind, and vice versa , even after blatantly breaking the man in front of you, must have a new love, you do not take the parties a thorough.
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12, Beijing women and foreign men as a freshman in love (all love), emotional and even good. sophomore girls and women to this mom, the mother firmly opposed to woman and even said that if the future with him again, to break off relations. Women did not hear shit, men love to continue and in the field. Now over the past 4 years and women work in Beijing, the work of men back home, feeling remains the same, not pull away from, to communicate with each other, open. women are suffering, that woman is a female mother who did her boyfriend, each meeting is a secret, calling only to find an excuse to go out. women want to pick out at home, afraid of women Mom. do not want to separate the men, but also inseparable, want to get married. cis sister help women to accept the mother how to do so. friend said, if the adults initially opposed, even if the male Excellent later, it is difficult to accept. women fear their parents sad.
photos say so, talk with your mother, you look and looked like him, I hope the parents sake, otherwise, you no happy life. Diema always trying to better their children, and your mother to see you stick to the present, to know if it is blocked, but also no point, 女大不中留, you will immediately go.
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13, female 26, After graduating from secondary school to a person outside the hard work, finally mingled director of a medium-sized enterprises, generally pretty personal abilities, a large part is because of hard work and luck; in the eyes of outsiders I did not find fault with her boyfriend, of which only you sad know. for the feelings very seriously, and that love is the purpose of marriage, Ningquewulan, really want to find a good condition, and only the high level of education, capacity-bit strengths, look not ugly, you can join me for the room also credit, know that the ordinary man hot and cold. why to be so hard? with the hardship is not afraid, as long as there are prospects of a goal, level of education a good point. because I know that education does not mean that ability though, but the impact of personal development. It has recently been introduced for a car's looks are not bad in the civil service, interesting further development, but is too low self-esteem, not their own education, pretty flat, though a bit less but the overall temperament of people (I know this person temporarily education and family), I give myself a chance to do that ? it is not at the sub-body, and their circle of like to care about this.
how much appetite for how much to eat, how many notes how much the food, do not let yourself climb up the desire or feeling, because that will make you tired heart . easy, natural living, life is good condition.
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14, her boyfriend big I was 8 years old, he was considered an outsider to see good men and doctoral degrees, upward mobility, ambition, sense of obligation, re- feelings, and very will to do. But his biggest problems is the extreme. While some thought he was right, but he could not understand other people with him a different personality. For instance, he often criticized me for petty jealousies, to generous education I am a man I try to change. may be caused by family environment, our home is his eyes, parents in front of me said I was not, at first I was not the taste, can slowly I felt controlled by his thoughts, and I actually resent my heart since my parents are some of the views and behavior, and It makes me very upset, after all, my parents are very much in love.
met him before I know my family a lot of thinking is wrong, it is these wrong ideas in my failure to find a job. My dad was a very incapable people, I think my family like him can hold up missing a family man, and with him I really learned a lot. I rely on him, but he serious machismo, self-centered, depending on the cause of life, from the do not consider my feelings. I am very disappointed for him. can be experienced after him, I have a man of my age did not have any interest, and feel that their ideas are naive! Now I really do not know what kind of man for me!
you know what forget about one's past? Do you know what the ungrateful? You learn to follow the Doctor the only thing is that in 2 idioms. nothing else to say, if you want life to be his eyes the servants and dragged her parents were present with their own people, you continue to mix with him, you can mix later estimated that the phrase out of a cruel and unscrupulous.
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15, my boyfriend, 29, 24, love five years, his good temper, prudent, and I am totally, like sports, work in general, only 163CM. I'm pretty (162CM), work okay. very much in love, but I always get angry with him, I think I am a bit unwilling it, with him not wear high heels, no money, job skills, but also like a general, so the total dissatisfaction. I was not not love him? not say love a person can accommodate his weaknesses? Why do I balance it? really going to leave him, and could not bear. His parents were very good, because they are three generations of a single pass, relatives not so much, very simple, I like the family, my relatives a lot, very annoying. now we also want to get married can be no money, he college my junior high school, he work is not good to me, I am doing now through the efforts of the design, I played 8 years of work and wanted to take a break and want to go take a refresher course, because no time before, the money in All my family, the family four sisters, and my father's early death, but also rural areas, my boss can say that I have dedicated all of the youth at home, leaving a fraction of their monthly spend, not save money. I think I'm married I'll have to do something for themselves, must continue to suffer with him to buy a house with him, tired and would like to have a secure city in his hometown, is not tired of work and would like to go to night schools, there a house, there are people who love me.
not to earn themselves a world, but also give you the old man fantasies, this is not dreaming? women rely on their own to create wealth and happiness of peace of mind to moisture, expect a man to, to There is no life that watching a man of light by Wan Road. If not pose no color, but also a poor family, yet under the lintel of armed qualifications, you can never fall in your lap a good thing. down to earth to find a stable married man it, even if the present poor point, not because he was poor, the right to marry, but you had on this basis ah.
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16, I was a student, the recent conflict with roommates, I hope you give some pointers. In the event that we are well in advance, it is caused by the Recommending Excellent League Members to join the party. She is group secretary, of a candidate to join the party, and I have no real analysis. in fact, had nothing to do with me, because the push not me. I accidentally saw a very angry, because of concerns involves the subsequent employment. wrote a letter to tell A with false facts. after she sent messages Champion, he is right, the tone of stiff strong. had only I want a sharp up attitude. Since then we have no speech. Besides, we're roommates, and how not to engage me the way back. my heart says to forgive and forget, but not a little while. A few days ago and She often with a woman (also a roommate) told me this, emphasizing the atmosphere into something it is not good. I have not from the atmosphere out of resentment, so just being with this woman said that some time, want to understand then. Afterwards, because networking thing, this woman hurt my self-esteem in public some of the move, relationship Jiandan. today decided to resolve this matter, about their dinner, was rejected. own analysis of events caused by the chain group secretary reaction, but I do not know what to do to ease the atmosphere. There is also feel bullied wronged, I do not know how to convince yourself.
you have a good deal, and they Buyiburao, then do not have to adhere to and better. friends there must be fate, some women are indeed very wrong, as Lu Xun said, often to do some provoke not flatter, so as not to excuse and they fall behind the more dirty you. Once graduated, who remember who? now let's savior when he was her adult: do not care about and continue to endure.
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17, I am a very good relationship with her boyfriend, though the two separated (I am in a foreign country), but daily phone calls, watery weekend passion. I have doubts about his loyalty. We both love, but he was before me ml with a woman before, he said, only to find a partner, that feeling at all. If I believe him, I think he now can not go abroad this time I will find sexual partners? every time a thought I very painful, and I probably want to stay abroad for two years. so long how can you ensure that he is not derailed, and I now receive cards with him, but did not do wine. We are university students, he was 26, I 27 I first on the research, find a good job after he graduated in my graduate school years, before work, we experienced a lot of things, he said I was his life, but I can not confirm, I always felt He fishes for my money, I am passionately devoted, and he estimated that there will not be my future high wages, at most, a fraction of me. He has a good-natured, the principle of doing things, before he told me when I graduate never been better, but overall okay. I regret that now receive cards with him, and we all know that university students and the teacher licensing of my things with him, and now that everything late.
to Q Shun sister, he can always faithful to me? because it is students know him, what he is good man, looks can be considered handsome, only son, his family was with my family almost. outsiders to see me with him a very suitable match In fact, we are also very good match, between what are harmonious. may be a little fuss. your sister along to help look at the possibility of derailment Zhesi?
can not see. I'm not physiognomy, more than the probability of phase derailment The. as lovers, first of all to trust each other. if not the foundation, but also with doing?
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18, I am 32, have never been in love. Over the past due to be reconciled, closed up the total learning (specialist Self graduated from college), is working stable, but earn little. The want to learn more have participated in the development of professional examinations, but not calm down. I grew up basically had no dealings with the opposite sex. is the work of no contact the opposite sex, in Beijing, unaccompanied, very lonely. has a network personals, too out of touch. also participated in some single events, but unfortunately not active, nor the United States to one person. occasionally encountered is the inability to blind also unable to people who could not find his wife. The key people did not feel to me. I'm afraid I'm like, physiological needs, and I endured. I care about my desire to have sex.
I am not a dinosaur, younger than external. which the environment does not, and heterosexual contact. I have not buried any if the last generation who did not in this life fate, and thus end up alone. I do not know how to do, was very anxious, thinking someday it will be reduced to the point of the Internet to find a lover to prove I have some charm? at least they will and if you say something nice ah. my heart is pure, it is difficult to accept such a thing happen. I am a typical Virgo personality. I have no special feeling to any man, if you feel a little bit, people told me not, no problem. a horse is not sweet . I do not know how to get along with men, do you give me some advice?
was later ordered their own enchanting point of unwinding, the sale blind date is a hammer, or a fancy to fall in love, and or failing to appreciate immediately turned to leave, so dear to the young in the feminine when dressing up in stylish, this is a crucial first step. to trust their own charm, but also to trust their own fate, if you want to marry, certainly Jiadiao .
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19, I am 40 years old, free love 20 years ago and her husband got married with a daughter, now a freshman on the demolition of .10 years ago, her in-laws did not then buy a house, and we live together .5 years ago, the death of the father, mother from paralysis. My husband opened the original lease, I go to work every day, now her husband can only wait at home mom. husband has 4 sisters, who do not take the initiative to take care of her mother, and occasionally a little money out of the symbolic. Our economy is very tight, her husband is an introvert person, and his sister did not mention anything (he also has old ideas, we live in-laws house is bought when we got married, I feel old son should pipe), keep our noses for a day himself, no sexual intercourse or even a few months. I am also very depressed, one into the house to block the panic, so eat dinner out on their walk to the leisure square dance listen to music to see, and I feel much better. so I started to learn to dance .2 met 53 years ago, A man, he was very understanding, we feel good together, I do not know is the physical or spiritual needs, we can not control after six months, out of the track. I do not think I can not do without him , want with him every day. He advised me to calm children both big and can not easily put family scattered.
I to meet him, do not have time during the day, only the name of the evening by dancing exercises every day to the square to go, for her husband even more annoying, and I have the Cold War, a day does not speak to me, when I go out at night sometimes, he said ah, and the A group home is not possible, all aspects of the two sides are not allowed, but now the atmosphere at home will really something wrong with my depression, and her husband almost no sexual intercourse (I wonder if he has other women), and occasionally no one has the feeling that he altogether to die, each only a minute or two, made me too annoying. I'm only 40 after all, should I keep it this way after you?
first thing that you mother: Cutting sister called maintenance 4 , by taking care of your home for the elderly, it is fair and reasonable. If they are not willing to be on the court, the court would give them the obligation to do their children. as long as the economy has eased the pressure on, hire a nanny, you will be able to come out and work man your couple's relationship will not stiff like this. Second partner that you and the old thing, only when it secretly, do not bother, and we can break up the monotony took him as a decompression sex supplies it?
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20, he and I met 3 months engagement, nearly one year to get married. If the age is Brief Encounter, said it would be better to fight hate, hate the feudal town. marriage, he just fine, there are noisy, or at least decent, married do not know who, I always felt he treated me with indifference, and married, but feel farther and farther, and there is no sense together at sea. also Yes, He is very dependent on his father, his father very much control, marriage before the house was good, he was our temporary home in his house has a lot of unpleasant things, even in a few months back home to Cold War several times. I feel he was at his house is not normal, the performance is very cold to me, I was isolated in the home, so many contradictions arise. and he told me before marriage a good many of them are gone, then there A temporary small room, we moved in the past, thinking that everything will be better, could be new problems, and he actually had hands-on custom.
because the new houses away from his family close, sometimes we fight, we came to know his mother When he showed his mother a very mighty face, whenever they stormed away, and his mother let me use my mother's face back to the dinner, which has become a habit. in the end he actually had the habit of hands , and once pushed me and I grabbed him, because strength is too large, living in the middle of two broken nails, bloody, horrible. Originally I was not big push, and he saw me, do not even take me to the dressing clinic to continue and I'm angry, it makes me so sad. Then he poured again curse the problems, a month ago I was diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome in Jinan has been confirmed. His father let me once again to Jinan, a large hospital Check the many projects that once required a morning in the time of the month 5 times the blood pumping, and in the adjacent two days I have smoked twice, plus ...
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